Step into the shoes of an unknown stranger

A stranger who had suffered enough abuse than reported

Touch their wounds

Experience the pain they bare from within

The pain of loving a total stranger

One who proved how cruel the world could get

A total stranger who became a part of their lives

Only but to destroy their view of this beautiful thing called love

See where it all began

When one slap seemed not to be enough because there was no blood to prove pain

Feel the hatred towards the walls of the apartment they lived in

For she was constantly pined on them and they could not swallow her when she wished they could to save her.

Hear the screams that took her voice to cry no more for help.

Count the amount of sorry-s that lost meaning when the same thing was repeated again and again with the word following the next morning.

Feel the heaviness of her heart

Carrying bitterness and self-pity for loving a total stranger

A stranger who proved the world to be a cruel place.

See the rage in her eyes that hold on to her heart as a grudge that will cease only with time.

Count the times she had gone suicidal but did not succeed.

See how much she’d wished the world could swallow her to save her from her troubles.

Reflect on the day she lied half dead in a hospital bed for loving a total stranger who proved the world to be a cruel place.

Do not be that man

Communicate your point without taking a punch

Do not be that woman who tolerate abuse

Fight it without taking a punch





I’d like to sit down with people in power, people in position to determine who to employ and who not to, I’d like to find out where they started, and how they started, I’d to know who taught them to do the work they do, I’d to know who gave them the experience, I’d like to confirm if they had experience of the work they do before they were hired for the first time, and I’d like to know how a graduate is supposed to gain experience when they are not willing to hire them for lack of experience.

The introduction of internships had been a little but a blessing to a few who were lucky to be appointed in those positions, but yet that was also before experience was required to get an internship position. I thought internships were meant to offer experience to help people get jobs in those positions where experience is too crucial, but not anymore; someone I know was recently turned down after an interview for an internship program for lack of experience. Where is he supposed to get the experience? Not every college or university offers in-service training, even so, where is one supposed to get two years or more experience if not hired by anyone?

I have grown to believe that everyone has something to offer, experience or not; but only when given a chance. Graduates are hardly given a chance to learn, jobs are offered to people who already have jobs, since they are the ones who have experience. It is more like jobs are being circulated amongst the working class when it should be provided to people who are not working. A vacant position left by one who got a better offer and backed by the experience they gained from the vacancy is replaced by one who’d also left a vacancy somewhere which also is to be filled by one who’d been working somewhere else…and it goes on like that. How about us? How about those who had never worked before, how about those who had never left a vacancy, where are we supposed to work?

I’d like to know from human resources personnel or whoever is in position to hire, tell me where you gained experience before you were hired for the first time. If you had the experience please help me understand how, if not please tell me how you got the job. Were you lucky? What is it that you had that you do not see in our graduates? I am not only speaking for the many graduates who are unemployed, I also have been a victim until I decided to study something else which would not require me to wait for anyone to hire me (not everyone has the capacity to do this), and it’s discouraging to buy a city press to find vacancies of your field requiring two years or more experience that you do not have every Sunday. You apply anyway and nobody gets back to you because you could not possibly lie about having experience. Is that what you did? Did you fake experience to get the job? I need some light, I have an HR diploma which has become useless after many years of applying for internships and jobs that yielded no fruits. I have never used it because no one has ever given me a chance to practice what I have been taught.

Something has to be done about this, people in power ought to consider graduates, if you look at it, fresh minds are less demanding and hardworking, easy to train and innovative, but the cooperate world has become so stereotyped that nobody recognize this. Internships should not require experience and every company should offer internships. People without experience should be given a chance to learn, they should be given a chance to prove themselves. You cannot assume that it will be a waste of time and money unless you try, you will be surprised at what a graduate who knows nothing of the cooperate world can benefit your company. People without experience are more open to learn than people with five years’ experience. Everyone has something to offer, but only when given a chance.


The people who really see us are the people in our world, not the people in the world, but we tend to rather suit up for the world that hardly sees us instead of suiting up for the people in our world who appreciate and take pride in us when we look good. Suiting up includes everything, shaving, cleaning up and all that makes an immaculate person.

Okay let’s get down to differentiating the world from your world. The world, is everyone, all the strangers you see minding their own business when you suit up and go out there, they are those people who don’t even care whether you look good or not, because they do not know you, they may see you and admire your attire from a distance or even get closer to tell you that you look good or ask where you bought the dress but that’s it, it ends there, they don’t care whether you borrowed the suit or had it made, they do not care about you.

And your world, these are your people, your partner, your family and a little bit of your friends and colleagues, these are the people who look at you and smile, and in their deepest thoughts they are more likely to go like ‘hmmm…glad that is mine’. These are the people you ought to dress up for if you have to dress up for anyone, because they are the people who really see you and appreciate you and want more of you in their lives instead of wishing for better.

But here’s a fact; people dress up for the world and neglect themselves in their world, they think well, these people know me; a guy would say well my girlfriend or my wife already accepted me, I do not have to impress her anymore. Tell you what, you are very wrong, the less you value how they feel or think of you is the more you allow them to admire the outside world, because they still want that man who came to them dressed up for the world in the first place. As a wife, your husband married you but he still wants to see you as that woman he fell in love with that day. If there’s a time you need to go see your designer, it is when you are planning his surprise party in your house with only family and friends, and if there’s a time you need to be all sexy, that should be as you wait for him to come home from work. Okay let me not go deep into that world but I am sure you get my point. I mean why do you have to be sexy only when you are going out there and wear baggy track pants when you are with your man? If you are doing this, change it today.

These small efforts will keep the people in your world right where they belong. Do not neglect them and their feelings, listen to their opinions as far as your appearance is concerned; suit up better for them than the world.